Enjoying life also implies learning in times when we are down. To be able to see these learnings and enjoy the moments of fullness it is necessary to be present; that is, be here and now. The present tense is ephemeral because it transforms into a past moment at every moment. That is why achieving mindfulness requires constant practice.
What is love?
To make the brain get used to paying attention it is necessary to treat it with love. That's right: LOVE. Many of the ancient currents of thought have as their main proposal the practice of love; However, the concept of love has changed with respect to social transitions. You cannot pretend that love is exactly the same as it was two or three thousand years ago. This is how it is also necessary to reconceptualize the concept of love in order to have full attention.
A simple exercise to determine what we understand by love is to ask ourselves the following: what do you think when you talk about love? Do you think about the couple you have, in your children, in your work? If so, your conceptualization of love is totally possession. Love, as a transcendental concept refers more to the values that compose it: generosity, kindness and understanding.
Mindfulness and its 9 technique steps
To achieve mindfulness it is necessary that you have love for your brain; that is, understanding, that you be generous and kind to him. Returning to the Buddhist teachings and within the current Mindfulness studies, 9 personal activities are proposed to achieve mindfulness:
- Acceptance: See things as they are without confusing resignation or passivity. That is, without providing them with an additional emotional charge.
- Not judge: Observe and listen without thinking about whether the circumstance, person or fact that you contemplate or listen to is right or wrong.
- Curiosity: Have a child's mind, discover the world. Here I propose what I always propose to my students, reconfigure your language from popular wisdom and think: "Curiosity did not kill the cat, it made it smarter and more creative." Experiment
- Patience: Be patient with yourself, with your learning process, with the rest of the people around you.
- in Trust: That you can achieve what you propose, in your neighbor, in life or in a higher power if you decide, but trust is not a pretext to throw yourself to the pillow, is to be sure that it will happen if you do your part .
- Not force you: Do not become obsessed with achieving results or with the objectives, the first thing is to be here and now and not what you have to do tomorrow, your learning process also requires your time, but for now focus on what you have in the present: Today, here and now.
- Let go: Do not stick to things, moments or people. This is also a way of exercising your freedom and respecting the freedom of the other.
- Gratitude: Be in constant gratitude for what configures your present: thank you for the sun or the rain this morning, thank you that I can wear my favorite coat, thank you because I have a family, thank you for each and every one of the things that make you Be here and now. This exercise is undoubtedly one of the most transcendental and arduous to achieve, but it is possible.
- Generosity with others: being generous does not imply charity or paternalism, it implies being abundant; applied to "others" can be understood as the way to give yourself to the world. Be generous by giving the best version of you to the people around you.
These techniques will have an important and very positive impact on your way of looking at life and interacting with others. Remember, the practice makes the teacher, which makes it clear that it is necessary to constantly practice love. And if you find yourself having unpleasant thoughts, or forcing your brain to be present without achieving it, don't judge yourself, continue applying the technique until you can master it.