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The charm of the Narcissist

28 April 2019

There are many articles related to Narcissism, some written by professionals in the field, others more by victims called “survivors of the Narcissist”, and some by people who, having been the perpetrators themselves, have changed their lifestyle by going to specialized centers that They have given the instruments to defeat themselves.

However, if we take a tour of the articles published in various media, the vast majority of them focus on Narcissism within the relationship, leaving aside other fields in which the Narcissist extends his domain.

The personality of the true Narcissist is almost imperceptible to people: sometimes people with similar, selfish, self-paid, manipulative characteristics are described as such, but we can openly identify those phases of their personality, we are not really facing a true narcissist.

Image: The NY newspaper

The real Narcissist does not show himself as such, he is soft, he is subtle, in fine ways, he is not violent, he is a charming person who seduces with his gift of people to those around him.

That enchanting charm, be it a man or a woman, a couple, a boss or co-worker, a friend or a relative, we do not realize until we end up entangled in the web that subtly wove to catch us.

Image: The mind is wonderful

That friendship that you lost when you first refused to support one of their manipulative games and that isolated you socially; that authority in your work for which you lost your job when you demanded recognition of your work and that discredited you before your colleagues and blocked your access to another company; that family that makes you the center of gossip among your own relatives; That couple that mistreated you for years and that before others is your victim, that is the real Narcissist.

The violence of which the Narcissist makes you an object is not physical, it goes way beyond that, it is more harmful, it attacks your self-esteem, it disqualifies you before everyone, it victimizes itself and it achieves that those around it believe it, since inside of his abilities is precisely the subtlety, the charm, he only shows himself as he is before his object of control, once he loses this, his survival is in the destruction of himself before others.

The charm of the Narcissist is the song of the sirens, an almost extra-sensory perception is required to avoid crashing against the cliff of reality.

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Excellent article! Who has not been involved by a Narcissist? they are dangerous! very interesting!

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Thank you for your comment, that's right, we don't realize when we're already trapped in the subtlety of the Narcissist, and yes, they are dangerous, but not only for their victims, but for themselves, they are not people who know how to be happy and much less make others happy, there is hope that if they come to recognize themselves as Narcissists they can seek help and overcome this problem

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Because of its excellent explanation, I think I have been a victim, not in the relationship but in other ways ex. At work.!

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It is possible, because the Narcissist deploys his charms in all areas of his life, he needs to feed on the control he has over others, the problem is that the mask cannot hold it forever and if some glimpses of that disguised ego can be detected of kindness

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There is no charm in narcissism, as it says at the end of your article.
There is a network, a prison, a confinement that others do not understand and ask:
Didn't you notice?

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That is why the title, we do not realize, and it is rare that those around us also realize, the Narcissist is charming, stretches his nets on all those around you, as his main objective is you, little by little he isolates you from the others, but the reaction of our people is also nice when they ask us: «Didn't 53 realize?» Why, if they did realize, they did nothing to help you get out of the Narcissist's grip? It is the classified reaction of «I told you so» or «I already knew»…. Thanks for your comment

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I loved it thank God I did not have to run into a narcist but I have two friends that if excellent article congratulations

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Thanks for the comment, if possible share it with your friends and shake hands to free yourself from your ostracism. We are not in the times when we had no choice but submission, we can overcome everything, some things will cost us more work, but we overcome them, of course we overcome them,

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I loved it, I would like to quote its definition “the true narcissist…” only that I could not copy and paste and, I do not want to lose any word. It is really perfect.
I liked it so much that I wanted to keep reading. Thank you

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Thank you very much for your comment, at the top of the article there are the options to share, so you can save it, I sincerely feel I have made a good description, maybe I encourage you to extend a little more on the subject in another article, Narcissists give us A lot of cloth to cut from. Thanks again

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Very clear and true!

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Thank you very much

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Excellent article!

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Thank you very much

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